*By Dr. Devan

Human beings are social creatures. No matter how accomplished, intelligent, or powerful we are, we thrive on connection, validation, and the subtle but profound nourishment of kind words. At the very heart of all human relationships lies a simple truth: people long to be valued. If there were four watchwords to live by—four keys that could open the hearts of others—they would be Appreciation, Admiration, Approval, and Encouragement. Practice them consistently, and the world will love you.

The Power of Appreciation

Appreciation is more than a polite “thank you.” It is the recognition of effort, intention, and presence. Everyone—from a child who tidies their room to a colleague who contributes quietly in a meeting—longs to know that their actions are noticed. Appreciation affirms dignity. It transforms ordinary interactions into moments of meaning.

A simple statement like “I appreciate what you did” validates a person’s existence. It signals that they matter, that their contributions are not invisible. A life filled with appreciation is one where relationships blossom, resentment diminishes, and trust deepens.

The Grace of Admiration

If appreciation acknowledges effort, admiration celebrates excellence. Admiration is the ability to recognize qualities in others—talent, character, resilience, beauty of spirit—and to express that recognition sincerely.

Unlike flattery, which is hollow and manipulative, genuine admiration uplifts both giver and receiver. When we say, “I admire the way you handled that challenge,” or “I admire your dedication,” we shine a light on the best in another human being. This light encourages them to keep growing, while reminding us of the beauty inherent in humanity. Admiration is not about competition; it is about reverence for strengths we may not yet possess ourselves.

The Warmth of Approval

Approval is a basic psychological need. Children who receive parental approval grow in confidence, while those deprived of it carry scars of self-doubt well into adulthood. But approval does not end with childhood—it remains a universal hunger.

Approval tells someone: “You are on the right path. Keep going.” It offers reassurance in a world filled with criticism and judgment. Approval need not mean blind agreement; it can mean endorsing effort, intention, or progress. Even saying “I approve of the way you’re trying” can strengthen a person’s spirit.

When people feel approved of, they stop seeking validation in unhealthy ways. They align themselves more confidently with their true selves.

The Lifeline of Encouragement

Encouragement is perhaps the most powerful of all four watchwords. Life is difficult, and everyone faces battles unseen by others. Encouragement is the hand that lifts, the voice that says, “You can do it. I believe in you.”

Encouragement sparks resilience. It keeps a student studying, a patient fighting illness, an artist pursuing their vision, and an ordinary person enduring hardship. Unlike praise, which looks backward at what has been done, encouragement looks forward, planting hope in the soil of possibility.

A few words of encouragement can alter destinies. History is filled with examples of leaders, innovators, and visionaries who pressed on because someone whispered faith into their ears.

Why These Four Watchwords Matter Today

We live in an era marked by criticism, comparison, and negativity amplified by digital platforms. People are constantly judged, measured, and found wanting. In such a climate, to live by appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement is revolutionary.

They humanize interactions in a world becoming increasingly transactional.

They heal relationships strained by silence or neglect.

They transform workplaces into spaces of collaboration instead of competition.

They nurture families, where love is demonstrated through daily affirmations.

Most importantly, they remind us of a truth we often forget: behind every face is a heart that longs to be seen and valued.

How to Practice the Four Watchwords

Be specific: Don’t just say, “Good job.” Say, “I appreciate the way you explained that so clearly.”

Be genuine: People sense insincerity instantly. Let your words come from authentic recognition.

Be frequent: Appreciation and encouragement should not be rare; they should be woven into daily life.

Be balanced: Share appreciation not only in grand moments but in ordinary ones—thank the doorman, admire a friend’s patience, approve of a colleague’s persistence, encourage a struggling family member.

Conclusion

Appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement are not just words—they are forces. They cost nothing, yet they yield infinite returns. They elevate the speaker as much as the listener. They build bridges where walls once stood.

If you make them your only watchwords, you will not just gain friends—you will radiate love. And when you radiate love, the world cannot help but love you back.

Dr Devan is a Mangaluru-based ENT specialist and author.

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